All day long, we go around with a monologue inside our head – the chatter of our thinking. Much of it includes thoughts such as: what do I have to do next, why is this or that person making things difficult, what am I going to have to eat or drink in the next? Will I be late? Am I good enough to do what’s expected from me? What happens if I lose my income? How am I going to stop this pain?
Often – if not almost always – it’s a mixture of fear and stress.
We sometimes mix the negative voice with fantasies of escape or revenge. These fantasies are not tangible nor rational enough to produce satisfying action.
The voice in your head sounds like your own, but it’s not. It tends to be a compiled rumble of childhood messages mixed with adult conflicts and disappointments. The fears and stress are enunciated in your own words and in your own voice.
On the bright side, we can replace the negative thoughts with positive affirmations or steps toward solutions. Even then, a negative voice will pop up out of nowhere. Chasing those negative thoughts is like hitting the plastic moles in What-A-Mole. So, how do you untangle this mess of unhappy inner quarrels?
Here’s a secret for the ages: you don’t have to believe in your own thoughts.
Your thoughts are just thoughts, words streaming through your head like the crawl at the bottom of a news channel. Let those thoughts be. They are not you. You don’t have to own them. They actually get quieter if you pay them no mind.
It’s a tiny thing to learn, but it’s helped me a great deal.
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Thanks Morgan. Likewise liked your post today.
It’s an incredibly powerful thing, Rob; that’s for sure.
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Excellent advice …
This post resonates with me. Thanks for words of truth.
Great little write. Indeed, “The mind is a powerful wish-fulfilling machine.” Someone said that, don’t remember who.
Thanks Rob. Thanks for your blog, by the way.
Thank you Rob. That means a lot. I haven’t much going in life right at the moment, so my blog is everything really. So nice of you to say.
That voice is so annoying once you see it for what it is. Still it keeps on going. It’s just that you no longer believe it. Still it keeps on going…..but it just isn’t so loud. Loved your ticker tape analogy. It is a great reminder not to get involved with the voice. Thanks for this sage post.
Thanks for the comment. Yes it is annoying. Yet being annoyed is preferable to taking the voice seriously. In the past, I’ve made things unnecessarily difficult when taking that voice as truthful. Love your water colors.
Great advice, Rob; and love your site.
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